I felt this Alice. I have said and cried these words a thousand times. Now at almost 65 y/o and 43 years later, two sons, two DIL’s and three granddaughters. He would pick you and mine would pick me again. All these things are true, but he would pick you again. It’s not in the same way. It’s not exciting, it’s not sexy, it’s physical change some can be worked on and some can’t. It’s cancer and prostrate surgery, but it’s mature and safe love. The thing is, imagine your life without him. Can you? Can you explain this to your kids and make them understand. I couldn’t and decided I never wanted to. Find the good things and enjoy the good days . . .
Sadly badly this is what marriage with children look like. And it is NOT his fault, just this is how the society works. By making children without realizing the aftermath. The constant tiredness and then HIS need to escape (because he is the one who somehow still is capable to do that escape, not us. It’s never us.)
Keep writing. It’s beautiful. And touching. We need this, as society, to stop for a moment and to reflect. Not in the mirrors. But in deeper parts of ourselves.
Alice, you write so beautifully. Pls be careful sharing intimate details of your marriage online, no matter how painful. There are those who can’t and shouldn’t be privy to such personal matters. Deep prayer always heals us. Be blessed
This times a thousand. I could have written this myself! I see you and I know exactly how you feel. Thank you for sharing, Alice! We are coming up on 28 years married and it’s always in my mind in some form or another.
I felt this Alice. I have said and cried these words a thousand times. Now at almost 65 y/o and 43 years later, two sons, two DIL’s and three granddaughters. He would pick you and mine would pick me again. All these things are true, but he would pick you again. It’s not in the same way. It’s not exciting, it’s not sexy, it’s physical change some can be worked on and some can’t. It’s cancer and prostrate surgery, but it’s mature and safe love. The thing is, imagine your life without him. Can you? Can you explain this to your kids and make them understand. I couldn’t and decided I never wanted to. Find the good things and enjoy the good days . . .
Exceptional writing, my sweet friend. I truly wish I had the bravery to write so honestly. This is me giving you a hug ♥️🙏
This took a lot of reflection and bravery. I've felt this way before. So proud of you for putting your heart in the pen and sharing your soul.
This is an empty, lonely feeling! Can you have an open discussion and communicate exactly what’s going on or go to counseling together? 😕
Alice, I see you and feel your pain. As a veteran of different dark times, and an artist, I want to share this and hope that it will someday resonate with you. https://davidshrigley.com/printmaking/news-it-wont-be-like-this-forever
Sadly badly this is what marriage with children look like. And it is NOT his fault, just this is how the society works. By making children without realizing the aftermath. The constant tiredness and then HIS need to escape (because he is the one who somehow still is capable to do that escape, not us. It’s never us.)
Keep writing. It’s beautiful. And touching. We need this, as society, to stop for a moment and to reflect. Not in the mirrors. But in deeper parts of ourselves.
Alice, you write so beautifully. Pls be careful sharing intimate details of your marriage online, no matter how painful. There are those who can’t and shouldn’t be privy to such personal matters. Deep prayer always heals us. Be blessed
This times a thousand. I could have written this myself! I see you and I know exactly how you feel. Thank you for sharing, Alice! We are coming up on 28 years married and it’s always in my mind in some form or another.